stop it.

Admittedly, I have a problem. No, I’m not an alcoholic or a drug addict but I think this could even be worse. Sometimes I hate myself. Like really, really, hate. And not because I think I’m fat or ugly or because my clothes aren’t cool, but because I don’t live up to my own standards. Actually, I don’t even think I can live up to them. More than likely, the standard that I measure myself against daily is unobtainable.

Why do I keep doing it? I have no idea. They say that you’re your own worst critic, and I’m not even a critic. It’s worse that than. I can easily whip myself into a frenzy or get so depressed that I could sleep for a week.

But sometimes, when I’m in the middle of my downward spirals, I remember something that I wish I would remember sooner.

Easier said than done, right? And I’m pretty sure that I’m not alone in this one. And I also think it’s pretty rampant in the blogging community.

So maybe, if for just today, we all could just stop being so hard on ourselves. What do you think?

Comments

  1. says

    This type of thinking is such a curse, one that I’ve had since I was very little (did anyone else freak out if they colored outside the lines?!) So, I don’t think for me, personally, I will ever outgrow it, but like you, I need to do a better job with managing it. I actually had myself quite the pity party last night. I really need to quit throwing those!! So you aren’t alone. :) Great blog, btw. Just found it!

  2. says

    Amen girl. I feel like this just about every day. And it stinks to not be aware of it until way later. But you are pretty effing awesome. Don’t forget it. Love ya long time.

  3. Alex (Things That Sparkle) says

    I feel like blogging breeds this sometimes. It kills me. You are amazing. You have accomplished so much. But I suppose people’s vision of you probably makes it even harder.

  4. says

    I feel ya sista. I often just want to crawl into a hole and cry — for no reason. I’m also really dramatic and overly emotional — but you know that. YOU are a rockstar, and YOU can climb mountains and be a fairy if you wanted.

  5. says

    Yes. It’s been a tough few weeks and I’ve been spinning with this- one day I’m happy and excited the next day I’m a huge failure. It helps to know other people go through the same thing (the comments are great!) and I need to remember to go easier on myself, stop comparing, and stop dwelling.

    Thanks for being awesome! xo

  6. says

    I am so glad you posted this. This is exactly what I have been doing to myself since I lost my job earlier this month. I need to constantly remind myself it wasn’t for my failures (I was effing profitable for my company god dammit) but because of others bad decisions my company filed for bankruptcy. AND still I feel like because I am out of a job it’s MY FAULT!!! We are all SO hard on ourselves in too many instances when it’s not necessary. I am so glad you shared this to remind us of that. How do we stop hating on ourselves???

  7. says

    I’m going to be honest, most times I look around and think people aren’t hard enough on themselves, like they’ve forgotten about how to get real, stay real, cut the superficial or politically correct way of doing things.

    Of course, that’s not you so I hope you stop being hard on yourself. I’ll try to do the same :)

  8. says

    I beat myself up about one thing or another on the daily. I know I need to not be so hard on myself but then I think, If I don’t push myself to do/be better then who will? I need to find that balance between motivating myself and mentally abusing myself…

  9. says

    Thanks for being honest and sharing your true, negative feelings. It’s good to know I’m not alone in this and validation is a powerful thing! I appreciate your candidness on your blog. It’s a good change from the nicey, nicey, everything is perfect….

  10. says

    Thank you thank you for posting this Christin! I am the exact same way…but it could be about anything..my hair is ugly, my job is lame my blog is stupid…bla bla blaaa.. Thank you for your honesty and let’s try this motto today!!! xoxo

  11. says

    I feel the same way girl!! I am my own worst critic- my mom always says I stand in my own way. Want to hear a pathetic example? I burned pop-tarts I was making for my husband this morning and I was like ughhh I’m such an awful wife to you I can’t even toast things! He was like calm down crazy- it’s not a big deal it’s pop-tarts. So yes I beat myself up over little things I do wrong including burning pop-tarts.

  12. says

    I went through this all summer It usually ended in sobbing and not being able to have anyone (mostly my very confused husband) convince me that I was going to go anywhere in life. Eventually I had to realize that I was not only measuring myself against my own very hard standards (career, I am not model height and weight) but also measuring against successful people that at some point probably went through the same thing. So now I am trying to be more patient and less hard on myself, I’ll get there one day…right?

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